How many times in your life have you done or said something that you regret? On the flip side, how many times have you regretted avoiding needed action or speech? Even the bad days have something to offer, and we need not lament their existence. Yes, that includes those times that brought us the worst events in our lives.
We all love and crave the good days: they bring us happiness and wonderful memories.
Bad days, we all try to escape or not have in the first place. However, such days offer experience. Even our worst days bring us lessons if we’re open enough. Yes, they hurt, but that doesn’t mean they have no value.
Whatever it contains, never regret a day in your life. Each and every second is precious and can never come again. And every single thing helps us grow and learn and build our character.
And, if we have missed an opportunity to act or speak, then we can learn from it and make a commitment to do better next time … even here, we need not get stuck in lamentation and regret. Sometimes, afterward, we can make it right, but not always. Usually, we just have to let it go and chalk it down to experience.
If you can say in all honesty that you did your best and followed your heart, then that has to be enough. It’s not possible to do more than your best right now. And, of course, that best remains ever changing, ever evolving, and that’s fine. That’s how it should be. This gives us another reason for not regretting: despite yesterday’s best being less than today’s, at least we now know better; we’ve grown.
When we regret, we fall into a complaining mind, and nothing can ever be enough; we will always feel a lack. Instead, why not try seeing the positive side to every negative? Remember, every coin has two sides. There can be no light without darkness, and no darkness without light. The one contains and defines the other.
In the wise words of Zen:
‘Make a decision to talk about your blessings more than your problems. Whatever you focus on expands.’
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