For each of us, there comes a time in life when we need to let go of the unnecessary drama. For each of us, there comes a moment when we see how we’ve bent ourselves into a shape that fits the people around us rather than ourselves. For each of us, there comes a point when we see that this has to stop. That we need to unbend. That we need to stop trying to fit the square peg into the round hole.
This will not prove easy, and at times, will feel impossible. However, we must persevere. Some people will only love you if you fit into their box. Don’t feel afraid to disappoint; it’s not healthy to let those sorts of people have that amount of influence over your life.
It is only when we begin to unbend and find our own shape that we discover who we are meant to be. As with Monday Musings Twenty-nine, we need to find our life purpose. Only then will we find contentment and peace.
All it takes is that first moment of seeing, and then making the decision to take the first step toward change. In the words of the Buddha, One moment can change a day, one day can change a life, and one life can change the world.
The greatest prison that we can live in is the fear of what people think. As with Monday Musings Thirty-nine, we don’t need to play the blame game. The only folks that truly matter will encourage you to be yourself and rejoice when you blossom.
The Dalai Lama once asked, ‘What is love?’ And then went on to say, ‘Love is the absence of judgement.’ If we find ourselves surrounded by people who judge us and pull us down, then perhaps the time has come to dig deep for the courage to instigate change.
When you come to a point where you have no need to impress anybody, then your freedom and contentment and peace will commence. In this instance, a good question to ask is, ‘Is it worth it?’ It’s never easy to take a good honest look at our lives, but in the end, it makes for the easier path and the greatest happiness.
In the wise words of Zen:
‘Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.’
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